At some point in our lives, we all have fallen victim to the comparison trap. Myself included. Whether it be in our careers, personal life or even with friends. And now days with social media, comparing ourselves to others has become easier now more than ever. It's easy to scroll through Instagram and feel like our lives don't look as glamorous. as others and even feel like we don't have it all together. But it's important to know that social media is often a highlight reel and that we all have REAL lives outside of those pretty feeds. Here are a few things to remember the next time you find yourself comparing your life to those around you.
Everyone has a story (including you). We all have baggage. We all have ups & downs. We all have hopes & dreams. Which means we all have a past, present and future. And just because other people don't always put their baggage out there, it doesn't mean that it does not exist. Sometimes it's easy to only put the shiny pretty things in our life on display. But let's be for real, we all have days where life looks more like a hot mess than a pretty mess. Everyone's story is different.
Others success isn't always what it seems. Maybe they worked really hard. Maybe they just happened to be in the right place at the right time. Or maybe they had a ton of help along the way to get where they are. The truth is, you don't always know how others go to be where they are now. And for that reason alone, you shouldn't compare your beginning to what could be their middle or end.
You have to find your OWN voice. The more you compare yourself to others and admire their traits, the more you may actually start doing things they would do. And not necessarily what is true to you and your character. Be authentically YOU even if you feel like it's not the norm. People look to those who stay original.
Everyone has been exactly where you are. We all go through life's ups and downs. We've all been exhausted, overwhelmed, overworked and stressed out at some point in our lives. And we're basically just trying to figure it all out along the way. Nobody has all the answers, so don't put so much pressure on yourself to do the same.
How do YOU deal with the comparison trap? Would love to hear your thoughts! Comment below.